The fear to love and the love that brings life

The fear to love and the love that brings life

Does our life revolve around our fears or around our ability to form loving relationships? This is perhaps one of the most essential questions of our existence as human beings.

Strangely enough, both our fears and our ability to love are exposed more than ever when facing death, whether it be physical death or existential death, we are forced to examine how we faced life. How we utilized it to form loving relationships. The Final Judgment is the total unveiling of that reckoning, when life is seen before God and God reveals our true beings in their fulness – if we loved or did not. 

Many people base their entire life, including their religiosity, around their fear of death and the Final Judgement.  In doing this, they are drowned so much in their fears and guilt that they are unable to be free to love. In love, fear cannot prevail. “There is no fear in love. For perfect love drives out fear, because fear itself become hell. One who fears is not reached perfect in love “(1 John 4:18).

In our lives, we are called again and again to make the decision to either reside in loving relationships or fear them. Living in the tension between the two is true hell. Each day God offers us the continual opportunity to choose between one or the other, especially in difficult circumstances when love is challenged by our fears. In these times, our love becomes a crucifying love, as it suffers the overbearing consequences of fear.

Once we have dared to love, we will have to face the fear of rejection and abandonment, the fear of dependance, engulfment and fusion, the fear of being revealed and judged, the fear of facing the truth about ourselves and life itself. In this sense, fear of love and fear of being exposed are inseparable. Love exposes us, not by condemning us, but by bringing us into the light. When we take the risk to love, our fears are demystified and healed, along with our hesitations to form interpersonal relationships.” We will then truly live a fulfilled life in Time, and, as beings formed by love, we will live eternally in the love of God. If we do not dare to take this risk loneliness will prevail in our lives, and we will live in fear under the shadow of death.  

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February 25, 2026

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